Oral Sex Tips
We've gotten several questions about oral sex so we figured it was probably
about time that we devoted a whole column to "eating out!" We apologize
(sorry with sugar on top, or, er, organic sweetener if you're that kind of girl)
if you've read some of this stuff before, but we'll admit right off the bat that
we cribbed some of this column from our previous responses to reader questions.
What if I don't like/won't like going down on my girlfriend?
Lots of people tell us that they feel like they should perform oral sex but are
scared that they won't like it, or have had less than pleasant experiences with
it in the past. Okay, in general our attitude tends to be "well, if you
don't like it, don't do it," but in the case of oral sex, we recommend
giving it a couple of tries before you renounce it all together.
Yeah, it can take a little getting used to, but oral sex gets better and better
the more you do it. We truly believe that the difference between good oral sex
and great oral sex is enthusiasm. There have been a couple of times when
we've gone down on someone when we weren't really in to it, especially the
first few times, because we felt like we had to - we thought "this is what I'm
supposed to do with a woman, she likes it, so I guess I'll do it." Hey, if you
aren't enjoying it, she will totally be able to tell and probably won't
enjoy herself either!
It's uncomfortable for both of you if that happens. No
one wants a miserable unhappy head between her legs (and we're guessing no one
wants to be that miserable unhappy head either!) Our first advice, therefore, is
definitely avoid doing any kind of sexual act when you're not in the mood for
it. However, we have found that the more you perform oral sex, the sooner
you'll be begging for it! Think about what it is exactly that you don't
like about oral, and try to address that specific issue before you write it off
altogether. Give it another chance, because once you start enjoying it, then
you'll be able to have fun with it - even better!
What if I don't like/won't like my girlfriend going down on me?
In general, we love receiving oral sex. There's just something about it that
can make us want to grab our pillows and scream because it feels so completely
amazing. Of course, there are also those days when it tickles, when it hurts,
when it just feels kind of boring, when you're in the mood for something else,
or when you're feeling too nervous about your taste and smell to relax and
enjoy it. The key to liking any sex act is to only do it when you want to -
if you feel obligated or reluctant, it probably isn't going to be very fun,
and oral sex can involve a lot of trust. After all, someone's got their face
in your cootch - how much more intimate can it get? If you haven't liked
oral sex in the past, think about what hasn't felt right. If you haven't
liked the way your partner has done it, definitely give your partner a break
(every woman likes different things and most women aren't mind readers, ya
know) and tell her what you'd like her to try instead. Do it in a cooing,
"oh baby I know you can make me feel so good, you're so hot" kind of way
to minimize any blow to her ego, but don't deny yourself the pleasures of oral
sex over a communication problem! Too much pressure on your clit? Ask her to
move over! Too slow? Too fast? This kind of stuff is easily resolved! But if
you're worried about yourself, that's a different issue. Lots of women worry
that they don't taste very good, but the truth is a lot of women loooove the
way that other woman taste. Try tasting yourself - you'll probably find
that its not so bad, maybe even kind of nice. If it really isn't, or if you
have an extra fishy or ammonia-like smell, you might want to mosey on over to
your nearest women's health practitioner and check to see if you have a yeast
or bacterial infection. Women smell and taste pretty good (in their own special
women are so hot kind of way) so if you're not smelling or tasting so good,
there's probably something wrong and it is probably super easy to fix!
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